I am exhausted after a busy memorial weekend with friends and family. I hope everyone had a safe and wonderful weekend.
JASON LYNN STOKER:
We decorated a number of graves this weekend including Jason’s. (I can’t believe it has been 4 months since his death!) On the way home from decorating Jason’s grave we listened to some of his favorite music like “The Drop Kick Murphy’s” version of Amazing Grace. As we listened to that song I was instantly transported back to the day of his funeral.
After Jason’s casket was lowered into the ground many of us took turns shoveling dirt onto it. The traditional bagpipe tune of Amazing Grace played until the end and then Jason’s version finished up. (All of this was Jason’s wishes.) Even this 50 something mother and grandmother liked it! Here it is if you would like to listen: Drop Kick Murphy’s Amazing Grace
Jason’s death was a senseless one. He left us way before his time. He left a wife, two children and a baby boy due in September. On January 19th Jason lost his battle to drugs when he over-dosed on heroin. The day after he was to enter a drug treatment program. And that same day Shelly found out she was expecting their 3rd child.
I have always loved this picture of Jason. It was taken at his wedding. He was so emotional as he watched his sweetheart Shelly walk up the aisle. Ron (his dad) performed that ceremony.
Our youngest son Sean wrote his obituary one of the most fitting obituaries I’ve seen.
Sean is an aspiring writer and was just made an editor for the UVU student paper. Many of you have already seen the article that Sean wrote about his big brother Jason, entitled “Wing Men Forever”. This was such a touching article that I would like to share it with you again.
The pain that comes with the loss of someone so brilliant, someone with so much potential can not be described. But somehow we are finding a way to move forward.
Ron said to me many times, “If Jason dies and I did not do everything I could to save him I will never forgive myself!” No one tried harder than Jason’s father. After his death Ron went through Jason’s text messages and counted over 200 messages from us. “Where are you?” “Are you okay?” “We love you!”
If you have found yourself trapped in an addiction, please get help! If you can’t do it for yourself do it for those who love you! Each one of Jason’s “surviving” family members are doing just that – surviving. The pain of his loss will go on and on.
To help us through our grief we have discovered that there are ways that we can reach out. We plan to support and sponsor groups like USARA (Utah Support Advocates for Recovery Awareness). We will speak about addiction and recovery where ever we can. I plan to look for ways to help others like Jason who are searching for a way out before it is too late!
Please go to USARA’s web link.
WHAT ELSE CAN WE DO:
Each one of us are affected by drug abuse in some form. Either we ourselves are addicted or we know someone who is. We cannot bury our heads in the sand any longer. There are so many ways that we can fight this battle. I would love to have you share with us how we can do more…